Posted by: thaishin | September 9, 2009

About language, health insurance

These words were new to me:

Sucker is lollipop.

Flash light refers to torch light.

Gas refers to petrol.

Americans pronounce diaper as di-per.

Experience with american health insurance:

There was a time when my son and I did not have health insurance in the previous year and my son was running a fever. So, I picked up the phone and called a nearby clinic and asked how much would it cost to treat the sickness without health insurance. The answer: one hundred plus dollars. So, we ended up in a will county health department and ended up paying seventy plus dollars for treatment. Eventually, we bought health insurance for my son and I.

Health insurance is a must in US. Just in case when there is an illness or need for hospitalization, we need health insurance so that we don’t have to fork out a huge sum of money upfront. I heard from the news that there are many americans who go bankrupt because of an illness, even for those with health insurance because their illness was not covered in their health insurance.

We pray that God will grant us good health

Posted by: thaishin | August 20, 2009

Sense of importance

Another blog theme came to my mind while I was washing my dishes. About a sense of importance. And it is about washing dishes and cooking. Most of the time, my wife is the one who cooks while I am the one who washes the dishes. Thoughts came to my mind that what she is doing something value added while I am not. She contributes to the fulfillment of our tummies while I am doing a menial task of cleaning up the mess. As we talked about it, my wife pointed out that we are just doing what we are best at doing, not about who is doing the more important task. Granted washing dishes is menial while cooking seems more prestigious. After all, you heard of cooking competitions to select the best chef but not competition of who best washes the dishes. But that should not make me feel less important because washing dishes is a chore that has to be done and it’s a matter of dividing the household chores to whoever does it best.

Our sense of importance should not be based on what we do or not do or not even on what we are able to do or not able to do. If God sends his Son to die on the cross to die for me, doesn’t that make me a very important person? I am important to God and that’s what counts.

John 3

16“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. – niv

16For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. -kjv

Posted by: thaishin | July 23, 2009

Introducing grace to my son

We were doing some shopping at a nearby mall and were on our way to another place when my 3 year old ran to the middle of the road in the car park. We could see some cars driving into the parking lot and our son was happily making some actions as he dances in the middle of the road. We called to him but he refused to listen. We quickly pulled him to one side and as we make our way to our car, I told him that I will punish him when we get home. He cried out of fear for the punishment for he knows when I say I will punish him, I will punish him.

Inside the car, he was still crying. This went on for some time. Finally, I told him: I will pardon him this time but only because of Jesus. My son deserves to be punished by disobeying my command and dancing in the middle of the road. If I go according to the book, I would have punished him when he gets home. But I went according to grace and he was pardoned. I gave him what he did not deserve, pardoning him because of Jesus. Hopefully, he will associate Jesus with grace.

In fact, Jesus is grace in the flesh. Our heavenly Father in heaven giving us what we do not deserve – Jesus His Son dying on the cross for us so that man may be reconciled to God. Sounds complicated but really it is simple. God is so holy that man in his sinfulness will die if God appears to us. God is such a just God that His wrath is upon us if he sees our sinfulness and we are separated from Him because of our sinfulness. But, God loves us so much that He sends His Son to die on the cross for us, so that Jesus pays the penalty of our sins and man is reconciled to God via Jesus. That is grace.

Ephesians 2

niv:-

8For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9not by works, so that no one can boast.

kjv:

8For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9Not of works, lest any man should boast.

Posted by: thaishin | July 15, 2009

Eulogy for my grandma

My grandma passed away on the 9th of June 2009 at age 89.

My cousin read a eulogy for her at

http://jeremiahwoon.blogspot.com/2009_06_01_archive.html

Posted by: thaishin | July 3, 2009

Fulfilment of Prophecy (I)

Jeremiah 33:15

15 ” ‘In those days and at that time I will make a righteous Branch sprout from David’s line; he will do what is just and right in the land. -niv

15In those days, and at that time, will I cause the Branch of righteousness to grow up unto David; and he shall execute judgment and righteousness in the land. -kjv

Meditations:

1) The Branch is referring to Jesus.

2) Jeremiah is an old testament book written way before Jesus was born.

3) Jeremiah 33:15 is prophecy fulfilled

4) Jesus is a descendant of King David

Posted by: thaishin | June 25, 2009

Dependency fosters closer relationship

I discovered something: The more independent we become,  the more isolated we become. At least that is true  for me as I am not a people person nor do I organize activities for people nor do I probe my nose into other people’s matters.

Last winter, my son was about to go to preschool but we had no car. Then, our neighbors just bought a car and they were willing to lend it to us for my son’s trip to preschool every tuesdays and thursdays and also for trips to the groceries. They had to sacrifice mileage on their car and sometimes they have to accommodate to us as they needed the car also.  But the dependency of the usage of their car let us have more interaction. We talked about our family relationships, about the relative recovering from stroke , about sibling working in the bank and more. We got to exchange information and got to know each other’s family better. Ever since we bought our car, our families don’t interact that often and hence are farther apart.

For me, being independent means I am more dependent on myself, my abilities, my possessions etc. Less opportunity to interact with my friends, less growth in the respective relationships. On the contrary, my dependency of some sort on my friends  draw me closer to them.

Similarly, to grow as a christian, we need to be more dependent on Christ, more dependent on the bible. Dependent on Christ/God to lead us, dependent on the bible to provide us with instructions. Then we will have a closer relationship with Christ/God.

Proverbs 3:5-6

niv:

5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;

6 in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make your paths straight.

kjv:

5Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

6In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Posted by: thaishin | June 8, 2009

An Aging body

A few months back, one of my friend in his 40s shared that he has a retina tear. Also,  an aged friend of mine at 70 had her front teeth extracted because it was causing her pain and she cast a set of teeth to replace them.  All signs of an aging body.

Now that I am in my 40s, my body is also showing signs of wear and tear. My eyes can no longer see clearly at near distance when I put my specs on. I will have to remove my glasses and put my face near the words to read them.  Used to have no problem carrying heavy objects. Recently, I tried carrying 2 gallons of liquid using one hand and already felt the strain on the muscles between my thumb and my index finger. Only recently also, whenever I brush my teeth and bend towards the mirror, I feel aches on my back. It reminded me to do my sit-ups to strengthen my back muscles. I have to remind myself that I am getting old and that my body can no longer function the way that it used to and I have to take care of myself also.

Now that I am in my 40s and aging fast, I expect some illness to come upon me later on.  I already have high cholesterol (doctor said it is hereditary). My mother has diabetes. I think her diabetes came on her around 50s. It is possible  that I will have diabetes come 50s since diabetes is also hereditary.  My auntie on my mom side died of colorectal cancer and probably I will have to do colorectal screening when I am in my 50s.

A piece of good news amid the doom and gloom though. When I was in Singapore to fit a new pair of glasses, the optometrist told me that my short-sightedness degrees improved. I wonder what I did. Maybe it was the mercy of God.

As we journey on this earth towards our heavenly home, we can only hope for the day when we will  experience no more pain:

Revelations 21:

4And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. -kjv

Posted by: thaishin | May 20, 2009

Love your enemies or hate your enemies?

Luke 6: 27But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, 28Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. -kjv Psalms 139: 20For they speak against thee wickedly, and thine enemies take thy name in vain. 21Do not I hate them, O LORD, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee? 22I hate them with perfect hatred: I count them mine enemies. -kjv Question: How to reconcile above 2  verses? Answer from Pastor Brian Ingalls: One of the first things to remember is that as Christians, we believe that Jesus was the Messiah, even God in the flesh.  As Christians, we try to look at the teaching of the Old Testament through the words and example of Jesus. It would be easy to read Psalms 139:20-22 by itself and conclude that the Bible here is teaching us we should hate and fight against people who don’t believe as we do.  In fact, the ancient Jews did often teach that those who weren’t part of Israel were their enemies and treated them accordingly.  In many ways they were very judgmental towards Gentiles (non-Jews) But as a Christian, we don’t look at just Psalms 139:20-22, we look closely at the verses around it, the context of those verses, and at the rest of the Bible too, especially what Christ said. That of course, is sometimes easier said than done.  But after some contemplation, here is my view of these passages: First, Luke 6 isn’t the only place in the Bible where this sermon by Jesus is included.  It’s also in Matthew.  And in the Gospel of Matthew, there is a part of the conversation that wasn’t recorded in Luke.  Just before Jesus said to love our enemies, Matthew records that Jesus said this first: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,” -Matthew 5:43-44 In fact, Matthew records a lot more of this “sermon” by Jesus than Luke does. And that particular sentence sheds quite a bit of light on things.  Jesus quoted a phrase the Jews were familiar with “love your neighbor and hate your enemy”- and for the Jews of that time, your “neighbor” was a fellow Israelite and a fellow believer in God.  Anyone else, you could “hate.”  That sort of hate, motivated simply by nationality and religious beliefs, Jesus contradicted. And David didn’t hate people just because of what nationality they were, or what they believed or didn’t believe.  But we’ll get to that in a second… Instead of “hate” Jesus said to “love” which literally means in a moral sense or duty.  In other words, put them ahead of yourself.  And you know, even when you don’t like someone, you can put their needs ahead of your own.  Even if you hate them, you can sacrifice for them.  You might not like it, but you can do it.  That’s Christian love in fact.  Same kind of love Jesus demonstrated when he sacrificed himself for the sins of the whole world.  It’s a love of actions, not feelings or words. And that’s part of the answer I think.  In Psalms 139, David is writing from his deep feelings.  He even says “am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee?”   David was grieved because of the wickedness of the enemies of God.  Since they were God’s enemies, David counted them as his enemies because David was on God’s side.  But listen to this verse:   For if, when we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life! -Romans 5:10 This verse says we were at one time God’s enemies.  Yet even though we were enemies of God, He still sent His only Son to die for us and reconcile us to Himself.  Even though God hates sin, and hates wickedness, and will someday judge the earth with justice and wrath, God still loved us by putting our needs first -sacrificing Himself for us on the cross. So what Jesus said is true, God wants us to do practice a love of actions (that’s what the word means) praying for our enemies, doing good to those who persecute us. That’s what Jesus did for sinners, even though God hates sin.  Even though sin grieves Him.  But Jesus was not saying we must always “feel” love, nor was Jesus saying we must always approve of what others are doing.  God is a God of love (a sacrificial love of putting another first) yes, but He is also a God of justice and righteousness too.  God hates sin. And for those people who choose to be enemies of God, they will someday face his wrath if they don’t repent. So what David said was true for him as far as his feelings went, and admirable in that David so strongly held to God’s standard of righteousness.  David’s hate was directed at those people because they had already set themselves up as enemies of God.  What David was explaining here was that he was completely committed to being on God’s side. He wrote down how he truly felt because David had a passion for God and a hatred of sin. But even though David was “grieved” and felt hatred, that wouldn’t have stopped him from  “loving” his enemies with his actions -given the chance.  Despite his feelings, I’m sure David was more than willing to sacrifice for those same enemies if God gave him the opportunity. I say that because, in his life, David often showed mercy and grace to his enemies when he had the chance. So in the end, I think David was speaking of his feelings and explaining the depth of his commitment toward God, (after all those Psalms are very personal things and speak from deep emotion many times) while Jesus was teaching us to love with actions no matter our feelings may be.

Posted by: thaishin | April 15, 2009

Who to marry?

I dedicate this post to all my friends who are still single.

Marriage is a big event for anyone. Finding the person to marry is the behind the scene happenings prior to the big day. Some intentionally scout around. Some will wait for things to happen. I guess different people will work towards marriage in their own way and I will share what worked for me and what I have learned.

Principle I held: The person I marry must be a christian, a born again believer.  The rationale behind this principle: A born again christian will have her thinking and actions influenced by the Holy Spirit.  It means we will have common beliefs affecting our actions and our thinking.

For a christian marrying a non christian or even a non christian marrying a non christian, it will be more difficult finding commonality, so I think they will really need to be meticulous when finding a mate. For me, I was prepared to be single if I cannot find a believer with mutual feelings. And God gave me a peace in my heart when I was about to go steady with my girlfriend/wife.  It was a sweet and deep peace  in my heart and it occurred while I was asleep.

Below are lessons that I learned.

Lesson 1:

Marry a person for what he/she thinks. Guys, especially, like to look at physical attractiveness, even for ladies the statement holds true. I am not asking you to marry an ugly spouse but physical appearance should not be the first priority. Adjusting our expectations is important here.

Lesson 2:

It is important that the relationship start right in order for it to carry through to completion, ie marriage.

Lesson 3:

Keep your emotions in check when looking for a spouse. Do not fall in love without first knowing the person. This, in my view, is the most difficult thing to do. For me, I got to know my wife through  chat and I got to know more of her first before falling in love. Easier if I don’t meet the person first.

Lesson 4:

Always be honest when relating to your boyfriend, girlfriend. Be upfront about everything. If there is no trust, there can be no relationship

Lesson 5:

I told my girlfriend, now wife about two weaknesses/flaws that I had before we became steady. If she can accept the weakest thing about you, the more likely she is to accept you when you marry.

Lesson 6:

Saving/Spending habits need to be considered. This I learned on hindsight. We are both savers, so no problem for us.

Lesson 7:

It is better that both be informed of their plans after marriage. For example, in my case, my wife always wanted to come to the US after marriage and I had difficulty accepting that fact. At last, I yielded but after seeking advice from friends. Eventually, it turned out that I like it here in Joliet.

Lesson 8:

Be the right person to be married to and be ready rather than look for the right person to marry when you are not ready. It is easier for us christians to be Mr/Ms Right because the measure is whether we are ‘Christ-like’.

Lesson 9:

What you achieve in your career, education etc does not count much when it comes to finding a girlfriend/boyfriend or husband/wife

Advice from the bible about seeking commonality in marriage:

2 Cor 6:14:

14Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? – kjv

Posted by: thaishin | March 25, 2009

Living in Joliet

We have been staying in Joliet for a year and over now. I guess it’s time to introduce to my friends  the city of Joliet.

The city of Joliet is situated 1 hour drive south west of  chicago. If we go to chicago, we normally take a train from city center in Joliet  and it’s around one and a half hour ride. Joliet is divided by the Des Plaines river into east and west. Security in the east side and near west side is not so good. Sometimes, we hear reports of gang related shooting around the area, even near the city center. Security in the far west side is better.

Joliet has a population of 145,000 and is illinois fourth largest city. Most of the population here are whites with some blacks and some hispanics. Very few asians.

We have 4 seasons here in Joliet. Winter is from November to March. January is usually the coldest month. Spring is March to May. Tornadoes come during  spring.  Summer from June to August. Fall from September to November.

There are 2 casinos in Joliet, the Harrah’s casino and Empress casino. Tax on revenue from the casinos fund the city budget. Car racing is popular in Joliet and attracts fans from other cities to their Chicagoland speedways and Route 66 raceway. Other attractions include a JackHammers baseball stadium and Splash station. There is also the Louis Joliet mall, a major mall in Joliet. You can find more information on the city of Joliet here.

Bus service is served by Pace. Usually the bus comes around 1 hour or 1/2 hour interval. Taxi service is served by Telecab. There are not enough taxis on the road for us to wait by the road and flag it down. So we have to call a number to get a cab (we don’t have to pay for calling the cab). It is customary that we give tips for cab rides, maybe 10 to 15%. The surface condition of some of the roads here are worst than Singapore as sometimes there are bumps here and there.

Major grocery stores in joliet include Walmart, Jewel Osco, Dominick’s etc.  That’s where we can get the meat, vegetables and fruits.There are also retail stores like CVS, Walgreens. These are stores like 7-eleven in singapore but are larger in scale than 7-eleven and they sell some household items and limited groceries like egg and bread. They are not as large as the grocery stores though. By the way, the grocery stores also have pharmacies of their own. All these stores have their own building and parking lot, unlike Singapore where they are usually tenants in a building. There are no coffee shops, hawker center or wet market here. If you want hot food, you have to buy take out from a restaurant or fast food.

I believe it’s God’s will for our family to be living here in Joliet. God’s general will is shown to us in the bible. That part of His will of where we should work, who we should marry, where should we stay is worked out as we live it out and is unknown to us until it happens. Sometimes we may make plans but I attest that a lot of time we do not know what is good for ourselves . Hence, sometimes it is only from hindsight that we can appreciate His good and perfect will for us.

Romans 12:2

2Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. – niv

2And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. – kjv

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